I personally know a lot of people who are already old, but they are still single. Unlike others, they do not seem to be in a hurry to start a relationship. Worse, they seem to be not interested in being married at all. Why are there people who are afraid of commitments? Sometimes, I wonder, are they not afraid to grow up alone? Don’t they feel bad that they do not have someone to be with them for the rest of their life, or as others would say, through thick and thin?
The Freedom to Explore
One of the most common reasons why people hate commitments is because they do not want to be tied into something that will limit their ability to explore, specifically their sexual desires. Of course, when you are in a relationship, you are forced to be monogamous. Unless you two are the adventurous type, you would surely not want each other to be having sex with other people. In this case, many would rather be single so they can fulfill their sexual desires. They can have sex with the strangers they can meet in adult hookup sites and the best thing is that there are no strings attached. While you get to have sex while you are in a relationship, it is a given fact that some people cannot just get enough of it.
The Avoidance of Pain
Heartbreak – it is something that is truly hard to forget. Depending on your coping mechanism, it will most probably take a long time before you can get over with a failed relationship. Because of the emotional burden it has caused some people, they are afraid to give love one more try, and hence, they are afraid of making commitments. A lot of people who have had tough breakups spent most of their time evaluating what went wrong and have high hopes that such pain will no longer be experienced in the future, which is why they stay away from relationships.
No Vision for Settling Down
When you are single, you can go out anytime and go home regardless of how late you would like to. You can travel and explore what the world has to offer. You can meet interesting people. In short, you will have your liberty. When you are in a relationship, on the other hand, most of your movements will now be limited. For this reason, a lot do not want to be committed because they want to live their life and they are afraid of the idea of getting married and finally settling down.
Getting Away from Responsibilities
Commitment, whether you are just in a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship or already married, will mean you are basically responsible for the other person as your other half. For married couples, responsibility is even bigger once there are already kids. These responsibilities are being avoided by some people, which is why they fear commitments. They have a happy-go-lucky attitude and they do not want anything to be a hurdle to how they will live their spontaneous life. The picture of having a family does not excite them and for such, they would rather be single than be attached.
